Train your “mental game” like a pro
Coaching men 30+ to handle emotions with skill, communicate with clarity, and build more meaningful relationships through a performance anxiety lens and a proven framework.
The Babysteps SAQ Coaching Model
Modeled after sports performance training, this approach builds mental speed, agility, and quickness so men can respond differently in conflict, recover faster, and create lasting connection.
STUCK IN THE SAME PLAY AGAIN
When every argument feels like the same fight
You’ve tried to keep the peace, but somehow the same conflicts keep coming back. The blow-ups, the silence, the guilt afterward….it’s a cycle you can’t seem to break. And deep down, you worry about what it’s costing your relationships.
Carrying pressure with no playbook
You’ve been holding it all in, trying to figure things out on your own. But without the tools, every situation feels like guesswork, and the weight keeps building. It’s exhausting to feel like you should know what to do but don’t.
Practical coaching for men ready to change the game
I help men 30 and older move past disconnection by treating emotional awareness like a skill you can train.
My approach combines brain science, clear strategies, and real-life practice so you leave with tools you can actually use at home.
THE COACH BEHIND THE PLAYBOOK
Coach Kris….helping men train for real life
I know what it’s like to feel like nothing works.
To walk away from an argument wondering if you just made things worse.
To want to connect but not have the words, so you stay quiet instead. And to feel like time is running out to get it right.
I help men build the skills they were never taught….how to manage stress in the moment, how to communicate without losing control, and how to step up as a partner, father, and leader.
Coaching with me is straightforward, practical, and judgment-free. Think of it like training for your mental game: real talk, clear tools, and support you can count on while you put new plays into action.
Coaching that feels practical, not clinical
Simple drills you can practice in real time
Walk away with strategies you can use in everyday conversations instead of leaving unsure what to do next.
A performance lens on stress and conflict
Learn to recover quicker after arguments, so tension doesn’t spiral into days of silence or distance at home.
Straight talk and clear feedback
Know exactly where to focus your effort and show up as the partner, father, or leader you want to be.
30+ Years on the Field of Human Behavior
With decades of experience in social work, family therapy, and coaching, I bring both professional training and real-world reps to help men shift patterns and strengthen connection.
WHAT IF I MESS THIS UP TOO?
Starting messy still counts as starting
You might not feel prepared, and that’s okay. Coaching isn’t the finish line, it’s the training ground. This is where we break things down, run through plays, and build confidence step by step, so you don’t have to figure it out on your own.
WHEN PRACTICE STARTS TO PAY OFF
Finally playing with confidence off the field
The reps you put in here start to show up where it matters most. With the right tools and coaching, life feels less like scrambling under pressure and more like moving with purpose.
Arguments don’t spiral, you recover faster and stay in control
Your partner feels more connected, because you know how to communicate clearly
Pressure at home doesn’t throw you off because you’ve got a playbook to handle it
You step into your role as a steady partner, father, or leader with confidence
DO I EVEN HAVE THE STAMINA FOR THIS?
Still questioning if you’ve got the stamina?
It’s real to wonder if you can stick with it. You’ve carried pressure before and felt like you were running out of gas. Doubt comes fast when you’ve tried to push through without support.
Maybe you’ve thought things like:
“I should be able to handle this on my own.”
“What if I can’t keep up the effort?”
“I’ve already failed at this before.”
“Admitting I need coaching feels weak.”
“What if I start strong but burn out?”
“I don’t want to let my family down again.”
Here’s the truth: stamina isn’t built by going it alone.
It’s built by training smart, practicing consistently, and having a coach in your corner.
That’s what this space is for.
Build the skills to handle pressure differently
Pressure doesn’t have to call the shots.
With coaching, you’ll learn practical ways to stay steady, connect better, and recover quicker when things get tough.
You don’t need a perfect game plan to start.
Reaching out is one small rep toward building skills you’ve been missing.
Fewer blow-ups and quicker recoveries when conflict shows up
More confidence knowing you’ve got real tools to lean on
Stronger connection with the people who matter most
Less second-guessing, more clarity in how you show up
A steady sense that you’re leading, not just reacting